I have a close friend that's very kind and doesnt have any problem financially. I've known him almost 20+ years and we've gone through hell and high water together. But, there is one thing that bothers me about this guy ; whatever bad things happen to him, he would just stay quite.. but, would vent out his anger on me. Well, not hitting or blaming me, but telling me about it. Here's a simple scenario that happens almost everyday to him :
Me and him in his car, going back to his house, when suddenly we saw a car blocking his driveway.
Me : "oh, it's your brother's car."
Him : "yeah. i'm really pissed. he always park his car infront of the driveway, and ofcourse i cant park inside. [insert really lame choice of profanity here]"
Me : "so, why dont you just go in and scold him then?"
Him : "nah. just let him be. i dont want any rucus. i'll park near your house then."
Me : "..........."
This is one situation of what i call ; chicken shit. You are REALLY mad! But you just keep it in your heart. Sure, that would make the other person happy and keep doing his kiasu attitude on you. BUT. It would eventually destroy you ; mentally. (and make me sick of hearing this kind of thing everyday from him..."my brother is kiasu but i'm not gonna say anything ...yada yada yada, or my dad pampers my little brother too much but i'm not gonna say anything..yada yada yada). That's not the healthy way of anger management. If you're not pleased of something, you should tell it to that person.
You can start by saying something like, "Can you please move your car, i need to park inside. Please dont do it again bcoz it's annoying." It's that simple. And believe me, it's effective.
Any other ways that you would like to share? Post them up. :)
*kiasu : "i dont care about other people" attitude
